In my recent attempt to ‘widen my social circle’ a.k.a. get myself attached, I decided to make full use of the SDU programs and facilities. Instead of just signing up their speed dating course, I’ve also gotten to placing my personal ad (with photo included!) on their lovebyte website.

Seriously, at first, I really did not know what to expect from the personal ads. A simple search through the existing ads came up with (to my surprise) a sizeable number of rather attractive single ladies! You wouldn’t believe these people aren’t already attached or married! And then it sort of like made me wonder the chances I stood at attracting eligible guys to reply to my ad. But still, one never knows, right? I was thinking like, it’ll be nice if 2-3 single guys like my ad enough to drop me a mail, and we can then proceed from there lah.

So, can you guess how many guys replied to my ad at the end? Till now (still counting), I’m pleased (hope I don’t sound too arrogant) to announce I’ve had at least 10 replies from 10 different men! Gosh! If I (with my kind of standard) can receive this type of response, I cannot imagine how many responses those single girls I mentioned above attracted! It was extremely overwhelming, to say the least! And it was also then, I realized, that I didn’t really know how to go about with this online dating thingy. One could say it is something like writing to penpals, where you talk about your hobbies, interests, etc etc. And yep….that’s about it right? After you intro yourself, and share what you do in your job, hobbies, religion, what else do you say har? At least with my overseas penpals, we can still do some 文化交流 since we come from different countries and cultures. Here? All the same mah….all Singaporeans…..what else to 交流? 伤脑精 right?

Currently, there’s these 4 guys who have been emailing me quite frequently and so far, we are already done with the ‘preliminary’ introduction stage and are going into the more specifics of ourselves. Sometimes, I really have to crack my head to think of stuffs to ask about them. I was thinking maybe chatting online through MSN messaging may be a much better idea. More spontaneous and less rigid lah. But so far, I’ve not asked them for their MSN account yet (dunno if they even have one), so see how lor. Anyway, most of them are engineers, one’s a doc and the other is a loboer (that’s what he calls himself, cos he recently quitted his job). None of them have talked about meeting up yet, so I guess we would have to go through a few more emails before we enter that stage.

But if you ask me, I would much rather get to know them better face to face, than chatting through emails. Too time consuming, and one never knows how they really behaves and talks in real life. I don’t want to end up having false expectations of how they are like.